Category Archives: Inspiration

Today Marks the Day

Today marks the day that I will become a healthier person mentally, emotionally, physically, and intellectually.


I will start taking better care of myself; eating healthier, cutting back on other (sometimes negative) behaviors, working out more intensely, and filling my free time with writing and engaging with people who make me happy.

I will work and study harder, save more, and enjoy my days. I will prepare for what my future will bring me and what the next academic year entails. And I will embrace the time I have left in college and in life.

I will stay on track. I will succeed. I won’t let small failures ruin my chances. In order to learn and grow, I must fail. These failures will make me who I am and shape me into a better person.

I will attend to relationships that need attending to. I will not walk out on anyone who has been significant in my life. I will not be that person that turns away and hurts those I love because I am scared or insecure. I will let my relationships flourish. I will not sabotage them.

Happiness is something everyone deserves, however it comes to them. And I am determined to find my own genuine happiness. Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect; it means accepting the imperfections in yourself and in your life and making the most of it all. Finding happiness is a journey – a long and, more often than not, painful journey, with many bumps along the way.

Today marks the first day of this journey for me. I am determined.

Article I wrote for the Blog Signature26!

Article I wrote for the Blog Signature26!

Hey Guys!

Be sure to check out the article I wrote for this awesome blog – !

It’s a great website for young women and covers all sorts of topics! Be sure to check it out. I hope to continue writing for them with articles on Fridays!

Ambiguous Loss, what is that?

Ambiguous Loss, what is that?

What is ambiguous loss?

     Dr. Pauline Boss of the University of Minnesota’s Family Social Science department (my University and major) has had groundbreaking research of this theory. Ambiguous loss is loss that has no closure or certainty/finality. An example (although definitely not the only type of ambiguous loss) might be when a parent begins to suffer from dementia and is no longer psychologically present, but lives for 10+ more years. Children/friends of these people often experience ambiguous loss because of the lack of closure and the physical or (no and) psychological presence. The loss of a parent, friend, or any type of relationship can result in ambiguous loss. While grieving is a process in all loss, it is a long process when experiencing ambiguous loss – one must also learn to live with the ambiguity, which can go on for years. 

Ambiguous loss is a complicated concept because it is something that not many people understand unless you are experiencing it. It’s a unique kind of loss that varies from case-to-case. 

I am just learning about ambiguous loss thank you to my own (new) therapist. It’s fascinating and really an important concept for people to understand. 

Expert on Mental Illness Reveals Her Own Struggle

Expert on Mental Illness Reveals Her Own Struggle


Many therapists, especially rising ones (such as myself), have had their own traumatizing and intense experiences with mental health issues. Dr. Marsha M. Linehan is a perfect example of this – she is providing exceptional help that she was unable to receive during her lowest period. The fact that she has “come out” as someone who struggled (and very severely at that), is helping to remove the stigma that those who have mental health disorders/issues/illnesses/diseases are unable to live normal lives; finding happiness, success, love, having a family, etc. – It’s more than possible.

In my humble opinion, therapists and psychologists who have had their own troubles have more to pull from and are able to empathize on a deeper level with their clients. In fact, part of the reason that I am studying to become a Marriage/Couple and Family therapist is just that. When in therapy, one needs someone who is able to understand what they are feeling and empathize greatly, thus helping them process feelings and decisions – that’s what I needed. I want to provide for others what I need(ed) and have begun to receive. 

But a client does not want to feel as though they are being judged by their therapist – or feel as if their therapist is perfect; has not struggled, made mistakes, and/or felt pain or loss. In order for a client to really make breakthroughs and have insightful moments, one must feel able to become vulnerable with their therapist/counselor. More often than not, it is difficult for us to become vulnerable with those that we feel are “perfect” and appear to have no problems. That is not just within a client/therapist relationship, that’s the way it is in every day life and relationships.

In short – I love this article, regardless of the fact that it is two years old (tomorrow!). Psychologists and therapists like Dr. Marsha M. Linehan are helping to remove the stigmas of mental health and helping create a safer and more comfortable world for all.